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Watch out for these two dangers in support groups

In this Episode Dr. Gerstmar discusses:
-A huge roadblock to success that we often see – lack of support – from family, friends, and coworkers
-Why support groups – and online support groups – can be so incredibly helpful
-The two biggest dangers of support groups and how to be on the lookout for them

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Hey Folks,

It’s Dr. Gerstmar from Aspire Natural Health, and in this quick video, I want to talk to you about the danger of online support groups.

Lack of support is one thing we see every day. People come to see us who are getting pushback from their families, from their friends, from coworkers.

They tell us things like, “I feel so alone.” and “I feel like I’m on the right path, but I’m starting to second guess myself.

And for many people the biggest source of discouragement can be their doctors. These people have researched and studied, looking for answers and solutions to what’s going on for them. They take that to their doctor, and for many people are met with discouragement or even hostility.

And that pisses me off. When people take the time and effort to be involved in their health, only to get shut down by their healthcare provider.

For the people who come to work with us, we may not agree with the information that you’ve found, and we may recommend you do something completely different from what you were considering, but we will take the time to listen to you, to understand what you’ve found and your thoughts and feelings on all of it.

We will support you.

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So with all this lack of support, is it any wonder that people turn to support groups looking for some validation and support with what they’re going through?

Of course not.

And the internet has helped with this massively. Connecting people all over the world.

And for once people can feel normal and understood. And that’s powerfully healing in and of itself. We often recommend people seek out online support groups for that very reason.

And having said all that there are a couple of dangers that people need to be aware of.

And the first is that in all groups, the loudest voices tend to prevail. There’s always a tendency for the loudest and most extreme viewpoints to take over. And that can skew the advice that someone is getting from the group.

Let me give you a recent example.

We had someone contact us who was concerned about finding mold in their house.

If you haven’t heard mold can be a serious problem for some people, causing a whole host of serious health issues.

Is it a problem for everyone? Of course not. Is it a problem for some people? Definitely. Is it a serious problem for some people? Yes.

Now this person went online seeking answers and some support in figuring out what to do and joined an online group for people dealing with mold.

And they were told that the next steps they HAD TO DO was get several thousand dollars in mold testing, and immediately leave their home and all their possessions or they risked serious and life-threatening harm to their health and the health of their family.

WHOA! Hold on. That’s clearly advice from someone who has had extreme reactions to mold. And an example of the sickest and loudest voices coming to the top.

This person contacted us in a panic. Did they really have to do that?

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Now do some people need to take those extreme measures? Yes they do. Does everyone? Absolutely not.

So one principle to keep in mind is that if an online support group is making extreme recommendations to you, it’s time to slow it down and get a second opinion.

Now the second big danger of online support groups is people getting stuck in victim mode. I want to be clear that I do not believe in shame, blame, or guilt.

And there’s nothing wrong with venting and asking for support.

But there’s a line here that can be tricky to navigate. Getting stuck in victim mode – constantly blaming others and circumstances, whining and complaining, ultimately don’t foster growth and healing.

Margaret (not her real name) is a lovely woman who came to us dealing with severe food reactions, a majorly dysfunctional gut, and all the symptoms of chronic fatigue. Her symptoms were so bad at the beginning that she was essentially housebound. Margaret joined a support group which was incredibly helpful for her, but over time as her health improved she eventually felt she had to leave it. She told me, “all they wanted to do was complain all the time, and talk about all the stuff they can’t do, and how horrible life is. And I want to focus on all the positive stuff I can do, and how I can live my life.”

I agree with Margaret. There’s a time for venting, for complaining and seeking support. But in general if you come away from the group feeling drained, more depressed, or more of a victim, there’s an unhealthy dynamic going on in the group that you may need to get away from. In general a support group she make you feel uplifted, supported, and in more control of your life.

Alright, so there you have it…

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Support groups, and online support groups can be a fantastic resource for people. Providing them support when it can be in short supply elsewhere. Especially if your family, friends, coworkers, and doctors aren’t supportive, finding a group online can be a lifesaver.

But there are two big dangers of these groups. The first is that the most extreme voices tend to be the loudest. So if you’re getting extreme advice from the group, it’s time to get a second opinion. And two some groups can devolve into victim mode. If you come away from these groups regularly feeling more down than up, it may be time to find a different group.

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At Aspire Natural Health we are experts at treating digestive issues and autoimmune diseases. If that’s you or a loved one, we’d love to connect.

We offer a no-obligation no-pressure chat to see if we can help you, and if we’re the right fit to work together.

If we are, we’ll move forward, and if we’re not, we’ll do our best to connect you with the person who can best help you.

The only thing you have to lose, is being unsure what the best next step for you is, so call us now at 425-202-7849 or email us at

Until next time folks…Take care!


At Aspire Natural Health we are experts at helping people suffering with digestive issues and autoimmunity.

Are you or a loved one looking for help?

Email us at or call us at 425-202-7849.

The first step of our process is to see if we’re a good fit for one another. If we are, we’ll talk about next steps. If not, that’s okay, and we’ll do our best to help you find the right person.

Everything is no-obligation and no-pressure, so you don’t have to worry. The only thing you have to lose, is the frustration of not knowing what to do next!

Call us at 425-202-7849 or email us now!

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